was awaiting this since Monday! I am glad it went off well and would
like to 'borrow' your last paragraph to send to some of our folks
"I thank you for the invite. I identify with and
appreciate the work you and your family did to make the function a
reality; My Spouse and I did the same type of effort in the early
"I very well know those feelings after an affair
You ask yourself was it worthwhile?
Why didn't more people participate in their cultural events?
Am I alone in my way of thinking?
Will I do it again next year?
"The rewards are the satisfaction one gets from
participating and more important making things happen!....In this
world there are Doers, Get-in the
Way -ers; and Do Nothings...You and your family belong to the
"A thank you to everyone involved in Saturdays event,
especially those that contributed time, money and food. I keep
meaning to send our hosts a thank you, but I keep forgeting the
email address on the kitchen counter so I guess I will have to put
that off til next week too.
"The last paragraph seemed pretty harsh at first...the
public castigation of slackers... but then I figured you have been
droping subtle and not so subtle hints for years
why not try the "tough love" approach. After this
though I would probably not waste the energy getting upset anymore
because there will always be people(whether here or in Belize)
who step up to the plate, and always those that don't come through.
"Yes, others may find that they have things they feel are
more important to do (meritous or not) so do not actively
participate, perhaps because they hold other things more important
at the time than cultural identity, but they will only change their
mind by seeing your example (an example from a respectable elder of
the community) and how you value your culture enough to provide this
event to everyone. It is people like all the active
participants that give the gift of cultural identity and memory to
the folks that can more easily forget it in their expatriat status.
"Unless you want to start restricting the celebration to
active participants (which would be a loss not only for those
excluded but for those included), then you need to decide if you
would rather have an event with a good turnout(that brings the
community together) or an event that divides and creates bad
feelings in the
"Yeah ..I know this sucks, but you probably just need to
continue just doing it out of love of culture and community and as
an act of charity or else decide you don't want to pick up the slack
anymore, and become a less active participant. Getting pissed
about how others don't participate will only sour things for you.
"Sorry if these sounded like harsh words but I believe
this is a case for that old Christian saying of "God
grant me the serenity to change the things I can, and to accept the
things I can't." It's worth a shot at trying to change
people, be greatful for the ones who step up to the plate and
accept those who are just not gonna budge anytime soon."
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